“It was never something shameful in sense that my parents weren’t embarrassed about it. It’s just that my Dad had never really talked about it before. It was something from a cultural perspective that I had to deal with. You just didn’t go to the Gods House, but other people’s houses we weren’t allowed to go into the kitchen or places like that. In India, there were certain family’s houses where you couldn’t even go. I’ve been married for 5 and half years, and this is something my husband and I will argue about but flipped! My husband grew up with a super liberal mom, like an Indian hippie. They didn’t have any of these rules. So, when we got married we had conversations where I’d say, “I can’t go to the temple” or “I don’t feel comfortable going to this religious event” because I was on my period. And he would say, “Why are you doing this to yourself? It is not unclean. You should be fine. One day when we have kids I’m never going to tell our daughter she is unclean. Or that she can’t go somewhere.” That was really empowering to me, and made me question everything I knew, but it’s something that we still deal with.”

Tara Pokras